Are you ready for Love or not?

Love moves the world. Period.

We want to be wanted; we want to feel the butterflies in the stomach; we want to feel the limitless passion two people can share. On the other hand, we don’t want to make compromises; we don’t want to work hard and try out best to keep the relationship going; we don’t want to put anything into it. We give up too easy because it’s easier to move on than to try to work through the problems and get on the same page as partners. It’s almost as if feeling is too much work. People try not to feel anything because if they don’t feel anything, they can’t get hurt. We protect ourselves and we rob ourselves of the most beautiful thing at the same time.

We need love whether we like it or not. Even if we feel we are not ready for it. We all need someone who we can talk to in the middle of the night, who understands us even when we don’t understand ourselves. We need someone who will tell us “Everything is going to be okay”, who will provide a place to hide from the world. Love means that we want to run TO him, not away from him.

If someone tells you, he is not ready for love, don’t believe him. That man just hasn’t found the right person yet. It’s not about being ready for it as much as being open to receive it once it comes. Not everything is ruled by the mind—love is wild and unpredictable. Love has a more spiritual than rational connection. That’s why it cannot be managed by the mind. If you think you are not ready for it, it doesn’t really mean anything. It’s just your rational mind trying to protect you from your fear of the future. Love cannot be controlled. It comes and goes as it pleases. It won’t knock on your door; it won’t ask for your permission to enter your life. It simply appears. You realize it’s here when your heart starts beating faster.

Jump right into it. It doesn’t matter whether you are going to find a bunch of joy and laughter or some tears too. Take it all as it comes—because love sometimes means all or nothing. “You either want all of me or you will get nothing.”

All that said the truth is we are afraid. We are afraid we will experience pain. We don’t want to be disappointed and get hurt—or we are afraid we may hurt someone else. So we keep our heart locked up in a cage—or in worse scenarios, we act like we don’t have it. We do all this to ourselves just to protect our heart from a potential pain that may or may not happen. We don’t realize that fear of something bad happening is many times much worse than the reality can ever be. This attitude is a product of negative thinking for fear is a mind-killer and it can only put breaks on our forward momentum. Heart was not given to us to be locked up. We were born on this plane to find happiness in life. That’s it. Happiness. Our purpose in life is not really to have a great career, make a ton of money, or have a prestigious role in society if we feel like we are have to accomplish these things (if we feel somewhat obligated to do it). Happiness is not forceful. It flows. To find that happiness, we have to free our heart so it can dance and guide us. If we live with our heart open, we emanate positive and loving vibrations which attract love and positive energy in return. It’s a simple equation: if we love ourselves and we walk through life with an open heart, we will attract more love and repel the bad, nasty, teary stuff.

We can build a wall around our heart; we can act like we are unapproachable or not ready; we can act like we are not sure…Then, a day will come when we meet someone who will make us ready for love in an instant. Suddenly, we won’t be afraid of a fall or disappointment. We will simply want to open our heart and start flying. The fear disappears.

No one has been nor will ever be 120% ready for love. But that is not a reason to work so hard on blocking it from coming to us. Life is going to bring us several opportunities to find personal happiness. It would be a pity to miss out on all of them just because our fear of failure is so big it completely rules us.

You don’t want to wake up as an eighty year old lady full of regrets, unfulfilled desires, and unrealized potential. That’s why I am trying to tell you: don’t be afraid and don’t worry about it. If you are looking for love, keep looking because he is somewhere out there for sure. If you are afraid of getting hurt, please don’t be. The pain you are imagining is much worse than what you are going to experience. Expect only the best. That way you will give yourself a permission to find the happiness you are secretly looking for.


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As a professional Tarot reader, I read about many different relationships and relationship situations. The most common type of a relationship question is:

“What can you tell me about my relationship with Mr.X?”

“What’s with me and Mr. X?”

A question like this is okay but when it comes down to it, it’s very open and non-specific. Tarot works best if we ask it specific questions because then we receive specific answers.

Many querents are not very chatty and will not be interested in giving you details about what they really want to know about their relationship. In other cases, the querent gives you a very detailed description of what happened between them last week because that incident was her reason to ask you for a Tarot reading. She tells you about her feelings and describes what happened, but doesn’t really tell you what she wants to know about the relationship. She probably doesn’t know what to ask Tarot. She comes to you to figure it out for her.

Neither one of these scenarios gives you a hint about what exactly you need to focus on in your Tarot reading. As I wrote above, there are two prevailing attitudes:

  1. a querent either doesn’t feel the need to elaborate on her question even if you ask her for specifics, or
  2. she isn’t sure what she wants to know about her relationship.

If you read Tarot and you are always left feeling puzzled by the relationship question, “What can you tell me about my relationship with Mr.X?”, you can always do what I do. Let me show you…

If you don’t read Tarot, but you wonder about what you‘d ask a Tarot reader if you went to one, you can read this article and get inspired.

Break down a general question into several questions that will give you specific answers. Remember, Tarot works best if the questions asked are as specific as possible. If you ask a general or vague question, you will receive general or vague answers. If you ask a specific question, you will receive very specific answers.

“What can you tell me about my relationship with Mr.X?”

“What’s with me and Mr. X?”

 Break it down like this:






CARD 1 | CARD 2 | CARD 3


This question will reveal what’s really going on between the partners: if they really like each other, or if one of them is disconnected. How much emotionally involved they are… The mix of their energies will be revealed in the middle.

CARD 1: describes the querent

CARD 2: describes the energy between them. It’s the attitude of the relationship.

CARD 3: describes the partner in question

For example, just the other day, I did a reading for a young married woman. In QUESTION 1: WHAT KIND OF ENERGIES ARE IN THE RELATIONSHIP?, I pulled:

The Tower (SHE)—Knight of Pentacles (the attitude of the relationship)—The Sun (HE)

FOR HER: The Tower speaks of a very disturbing event that happened very recently between her and her husband. It’s something bad, shocking, and very emotionally charged. A big fight. A devastating discovery about her husband, she had had no idea about until that day. She is not feeling good about the marriage and she is so devastated she is considering a break-up.

FOR HIM: The Sun could mean two different things. From a traditional point of view, The Sun is considered a happy card. But in this reading, we see The Tower of the wife and a very cold and unmoving Knight of pentacles between them. Your intuition will lead you in the right direction. The Sun in this case means that the husband feels burnt out. He’s lost his motivation to keep going. Moreover, I see this card as him having a very strong and abrasive personality. He’s too nervous, restless, or he tends to blow up easily (anger issues).

THE ATTITUDE OF THE RELATIONSHIP: The Knight of Pentacles is not a very dynamic and happy card to represent a relationship. This card talks about a lack of passion and too much boring routine. The relationship is not moving ahead. It’s stuck. She, he, or neither one of them is willing to put anything into the relationship anymore. The partners are not working on it.

Bam! There you go. A picture of the relationship’s dynamics at the present time.


CARD/ CARDS: This card or cards show you only him and his mental/emotional state of mind in regard to the querent.

Let’s say you pull the EIGHT OF CUPS in this position. It clearly shows you he is checking out of the marriage. He’s got issues he can’t seem to overcome even if he may not be aware of them yet. Due to his unresolved emotional issues, he is going to move on and away from the relationship. He has feelings for his wife, but he doesn’t want to be with her anymore. It’s too hard to stay in the marriage.

Another example, let’s say you pull THE LOVERS card. The Lovers means that he is deciding what to do: to stay or go? He’s not fully committed; he’s not really thinking of staying either. He’s weighing his options. Not a good sign for the future development of their relationship.

If he is already showing doubt or resentment about the relationship, there is a pretty big chance he will decide to quit. the cards in QUESTION 3 will show you who the relationship is going to evolve.

If the cards in QUESTION 1 show some kind of crisis, negativity, or conflict, the cards in QUESTION 2 will reflect that in one way or the other. Knowing this fact will help you to interpret the deeply personal and individualistic messages of QUESTION 2.


CARD 1 | CARD 2 | CARD 3

CARD 1: describes the querent

CARD 2: describes the energy between them. It’s the attitude of the relationship.

CARD 3: describes the partner in question

OR you read all three cards as a combination, with no particular association to anything specific. All three cards combined describe the future. Let your intuition guide you.

For example, you pull SEVEN OF SWORDS, THE HIGH PRIESTESS, the THREE OF PENTACLES in this question.

You can choose to read these cards as a whole. What you see here is that if the wife decides to stay in this marriage (remember, we got The Tower for her in QUESTION 1 which tells you she is on a brink of collapse and filing for divorce), they will make some kind of a compromise or an arrangement between them (The 3 of pentacles). But the marriage will not be fulfilling for the wife/the querent because she will be lying to herself about how happy she is (the 7 of swords) and the relationship will be functional strictly on the mental level only. The High Priestess says that they won’t really know each other that well and the wife will have a lot of wishful thinking about the relationship, there will be no fulfilling love-making (if any). Basically, she will have to lie to herself about her happiness because in reality, the marriage will not be loving or fulfilling on any level.



Here you can pull one card which will show you what your querent needs to do right now to help herself. It may be an advice to act or make up her mind, to change thinking or her perspective, or to just simply wait and do nothing for now…Let your intuition guide you.


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And that’s it! Now you have a very simple but effective guide to relationship Tarot readings. I hope you enjoyed this article. I will be happy to hear about your thoughts and experiences in this area. Leave me a comment!