Love moves the world. Period.
We want to be wanted; we want to feel the butterflies in the stomach; we want to feel the limitless passion two people can share. On the other hand, we don’t want to make compromises; we don’t want to work hard and try out best to keep the relationship going; we don’t want to put anything into it. We give up too easy because it’s easier to move on than to try to work through the problems and get on the same page as partners. It’s almost as if feeling is too much work. People try not to feel anything because if they don’t feel anything, they can’t get hurt. We protect ourselves and we rob ourselves of the most beautiful thing at the same time.
We need love whether we like it or not. Even if we feel we are not ready for it. We all need someone who we can talk to in the middle of the night, who understands us even when we don’t understand ourselves. We need someone who will tell us “Everything is going to be okay”, who will provide a place to hide from the world. Love means that we want to run TO him, not away from him.
If someone tells you, he is not ready for love, don’t believe him. That man just hasn’t found the right person yet. It’s not about being ready for it as much as being open to receive it once it comes. Not everything is ruled by the mind—love is wild and unpredictable. Love has a more spiritual than rational connection. That’s why it cannot be managed by the mind. If you think you are not ready for it, it doesn’t really mean anything. It’s just your rational mind trying to protect you from your fear of the future. Love cannot be controlled. It comes and goes as it pleases. It won’t knock on your door; it won’t ask for your permission to enter your life. It simply appears. You realize it’s here when your heart starts beating faster.
Jump right into it. It doesn’t matter whether you are going to find a bunch of joy and laughter or some tears too. Take it all as it comes—because love sometimes means all or nothing. “You either want all of me or you will get nothing.”
All that said the truth is we are afraid. We are afraid we will experience pain. We don’t want to be disappointed and get hurt—or we are afraid we may hurt someone else. So we keep our heart locked up in a cage—or in worse scenarios, we act like we don’t have it. We do all this to ourselves just to protect our heart from a potential pain that may or may not happen. We don’t realize that fear of something bad happening is many times much worse than the reality can ever be. This attitude is a product of negative thinking for fear is a mind-killer and it can only put breaks on our forward momentum. Heart was not given to us to be locked up. We were born on this plane to find happiness in life. That’s it. Happiness. Our purpose in life is not really to have a great career, make a ton of money, or have a prestigious role in society if we feel like we are have to accomplish these things (if we feel somewhat obligated to do it). Happiness is not forceful. It flows. To find that happiness, we have to free our heart so it can dance and guide us. If we live with our heart open, we emanate positive and loving vibrations which attract love and positive energy in return. It’s a simple equation: if we love ourselves and we walk through life with an open heart, we will attract more love and repel the bad, nasty, teary stuff.
We can build a wall around our heart; we can act like we are unapproachable or not ready; we can act like we are not sure…Then, a day will come when we meet someone who will make us ready for love in an instant. Suddenly, we won’t be afraid of a fall or disappointment. We will simply want to open our heart and start flying. The fear disappears.
No one has been nor will ever be 120% ready for love. But that is not a reason to work so hard on blocking it from coming to us. Life is going to bring us several opportunities to find personal happiness. It would be a pity to miss out on all of them just because our fear of failure is so big it completely rules us.
You don’t want to wake up as an eighty year old lady full of regrets, unfulfilled desires, and unrealized potential. That’s why I am trying to tell you: don’t be afraid and don’t worry about it. If you are looking for love, keep looking because he is somewhere out there for sure. If you are afraid of getting hurt, please don’t be. The pain you are imagining is much worse than what you are going to experience. Expect only the best. That way you will give yourself a permission to find the happiness you are secretly looking for.
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